As a father to young children I often think about whether men can develop certain feelings that have in the past been associated with mothers, from postnatal depression to empty nest syndrome. I have come to realise that men do generate these feelings but decide not to talk about their feelings, whether they feel embarrassed to do so, or just generally don’t have anybody to speak to. I have found myself in various situations were I have developed these feelings and wondered if it is normal as the father to feel like this. Yes, it is okay to feel like this and it isn’t embarrassing for me either.
Teddy (Edward), started nursery as I started university and I can say that I felt lost, empty and hopeless. I did not like the fact my child was away from me for more than 7 hours a day, it left me feeling guilty for leaving him alone for such a long period of time when I could be spending that time with him. His first day at nursery was very hard, leaving him as he cries and shouts for me as I leave the room, being held back by a complete stranger, my gut turned and I had never felt more guilty in my life!
I sit at home on my days off staring at a blank wall! Daytime television doesn’t cut it so I have nothing to do other that feel empty and lonely wishing for home time already to give him a big kiss and squeeze and never let go! So yes, as a father I can say we do also get empty nest syndrome!